Say it with love
The words of Paul’s famous ‘Love’ chapter, set to a montage of images and music. I made this back in the summer (2010) for the very final meeting of the Crusaders youth group I helped with; reflecting on the nature of Love.
This is a non-commercial work and I don’t claim ownership of any of the text, graphics or music (copyright holders, please just contact me if you have any issues with this upload – thanks). The accompanying music is a track called “What kind of Love is this?” by Lancashire singer/songwriter Bryn Haworth; the recording used here is from track 11 of the Kingsway CD ‘outrageous grace’ (2002) – full listing here:http://cdtrrracks.com/bid2311600.html
You can download a version of this track from iTunes here:
Missouri teen Douglas Maurer had been feeling ill for weeks. His mother took him to St. Louis’ Children’s Hospital, where blood tests revealed leukemia. He endured transfusions, spinal and bone marrow taps and chemotherapy, knowing the possible outcome of leukemia while struggling to be hopeful.
A relative, ordering flowers to cheer the teen, explained Doug’s condition to the florist’s clerk, who attached this note: “Douglas, I took your order…. I had leukemia when I was seven years old. I’m 22 years old now. Good luck. My heart goes out to you. Sincerely, Laura Bradley.”
The encoruaging and loving words of a stranger gave Douglas Maurer the hope he needed.
Words, our primary source of communication, are more than letters pieced together to form a concept. They are powerful tools to be used with care and with the awareness than words make a difference.
Words spoken with love offer a constructive and fulfilling meal of praise, encouragement, gratitude, apology, or forgiveness to a hungry listener. They can bring positive change into another persons’ life.
Our words can cut or comfort, hinder or help, harass or heal, injure or inspire… Each time we speak we deliver our own state of the heart address. – William Arthur Ward
Words make a Difference
God gave us speech to communicate for the good of all. Here are some phrases that are music to ear and spirit:
Let me help you.
You can do it!
We’re proud of you!
I love you.
Kimi Gray of Washington, DC offered to assist the many high school students in her housing project who wanted to go to college. While she helped with the mechanics of getting into college, her encouragement was even more important.
Michael Prince remembers that he had dropped out of high school and Gray “asked me what I had planned for my life.” She helped him earn his graduate equivalency degree (GED) and get into college.
More than 500 housing project residents eventually went to college, many because Kimi Gray was there to encourage them.
Love is the foundation of …
To praise is; “To express approvation, to commend the worth of; to glorify, especially God, by homage.” It comes from the Latin pretium (worth) and pretiare, “to prize, to have an appreciation for.”
Xenophon said, “The sweetest of all sounds is praise:” We all want to hear another person sincerely commend our worth. It reminds us that we are important. It nourishes a healthy self. Genuine praise is cherished, needed, welcomed and remembered.
David was an abandoned child living at a home for abused and neglected boys in Texas. His room was messy, in disarray. Unaccustomed to discipline, he resisted reprimands.
House parents Larry and Debra Harrold knew David had been deprived of love, attention and kind words. They tried positive reinforcement to teach David how to live complimenting him for every positive effort.
Slowly, they saw a change. David cleaned his room without being told. Putting their arms around him, they’d reassure him, “David you’ve cleaned your room up and it looks wonderful. We’re proud of you!” David’s growing sense of self-worth and accomplishment was their reward.
To love someone is to reveal to them their value… that they are precious. – Jean Vanier
Derived from the Latin cor for ‘heart,” encouragement means “to give heart” by offering “courage, confidence, support or help.”
Sometimes, people become discouraged simply because they lack the support of family and friends. By telling them, “you can do it” or “I give you credit for trying so hard, don’t give up,” you fuel their perseverance and help them fulfill their potential.
Children have a special need for encouragement. Whatever a child does, there is an opportunity for parental encouragement, from helping with homework to taking an interest in after-school activities. But adults need encouragement, too.
In a study on how best to motivate employees, Don Donning of Phillips Petroleum Co. found “people just wanted to be recognized for the job they do. The old-fashioned ‘pat on the back’ did more to satisfy needs than anything.”
Encourage one another, and build one another up. – 1 Thessalonians 5:11.
Cicero said, “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all,” over two thousand years ago. That’s still true. In Spanish, it’s gracias, in Italian, grazie. Both have the Latin gratus or “pleasing” as their root.
Thankful appreciation says, “I acknowledge your kindness. My life is improved by your efforts, and I treasure them.” How ofen we fail to express thanks to family, friends, co-workers and even God, who “gives to all mortals life and breath and all things.” (Acts 17:25).
In 1932, Tony Yurkew was one of many immigrant children struggling with Minneapolis’ winter and the Great Depression’s hardships. Attending school in ragged clothes and worn sneakers, he often noticed concerned looks from his favorite teacher, Ruth Hansen. One day she bought him warm socks and sturdy shoes.
More than 50 years later, Yurkew located Mrs. Hansen in southern California, visited her there and treated her and her husband to an elegant dinner to thank her for her earlier generosity.
Later, he received a note from Mrs. Hansen saying that what he did “to say ‘thank you’ was the highlight of my life.”
Gratitude (gives) an angelic loveliness to the character . – Theodore Parker
The Greek word apologia means to express regret for a fault or insult; to attempt to undo a wrong committed. It’s an admission to another, “I make mistakes. Please forgive me.”
An apology lets others know you care about their feelings and value the relationship. This requires humility, indicates tremendous trust, and generally merits forgiveness.
Linda Lawrence of Spokane, Washington, was disturbed by her adopted son Kim’s outbursts at homework time. Kim Spoke English well, but was easily discouraged by reading and writing in English, his second language. “School’s stupid. I won’t do my homework!” he’d scream, and tear up his unfinished assignments.
Mrs. Lawrence and her husband recognized that his outbursts covered his fear of failure. They apologized to Kim for reprimanding him and told him they understood his feelings. Kim began to talk about his problem and soon his reading and writing improved and his tantrums subsided.
Humility (is) that low, sweet root form which all heavenly virtues shoot. – Thomass Moore
Derived from the Old English forgiefan, to forgive is “to give up resentment; to cease to feel resentment” for “wrong committed.”
To say “I forgive you” frees mind and soul from the burdens of a grudge. Forgiveness neither condones the wrong nor shows weakness. One must be strong to forgive. Look to Jesus for the necessary strength and patience, remembering, “As the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive” (Colosians 3:13).
When their only son was struck and killed by a young drunken driver, Kentuckians Frank and Elizabeth Morris were consumed with the idea of revenge. But, realizing that their reluctance to forgive was eating away at them, they visited the youth in jail. Then Mrs. Morris began helping him deal with his alcohol abuse. “The accident had already wiped out one very special life. I didn’t want to see it waste this young man’s life, too,” she said.
Since the Morrises made the decision to forgive him, the young man has quit alcohol, become an acive church member and lectures for Mothers Against Drunk Driving.
Forgive, if you have anything against anyone; so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. Mark 11:25.
The Words You Choose
Words stem from the heart, are processed by the mind and are transmitted by the lips. Although they often are a commentary on others, they also reveal much about you as an individual. Do your words say you are…
- An optimist or a pessimist?
- A doer or a procrastinator?
- An encourager or a discourager?
- Joyful or sorrowful?
- Content or dissatisfied?
- A giver or a taker?
Everyone needs to hear loving words. Think of those around you. Is a co-worker struggling with a personal problem? Is an elderly neighbor in need or conversation? Is someone you know grieving a loved one?
The list of those who need kind words is endless. Whatever you say, say it with love.
Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. (Matthew 12:34)
The six most important words… “I admit I made a mistake.”
The five most important words… “You did a good job.”
The four most important words… “What is your opinion?”
The three most important words… “If you please.”
The two most important words… “Thank you.”
The one most important word… “We.”
Verbal abuse, although invisible, assaults the victim’s mind and spirit. Words spoken in anger, guilt or resentment cut deeply and quickly with lasting effects. Indeed, words can be as painful as physical blows.
Parents, especially, should know that criticisms, put-downs, insults – even when delivered “in fun” – can hurt feelings, bruise egos, and stunt the growth of children’s healthy self image. If your words do not build up and encourage, it’s better to say nothing.
Let no evil come out of your mouths, but what is useful for building up. – Ephesians 4:29
(Source: The Christophers News Note no. 471, 12 East 48th Street, New York, NY 10017; www.christophers.org.
Here-under are some articles about marriage for you to read or watch:
- Getting to know you, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=284
- Be Positive, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=288
- Love and Marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=292
- Endless Love – Marriage after all, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=294
- Say it with love, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=298
- Quality family moments, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=300
- Secret of successful marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=302
- The vocation of marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1968
- Marriage as Covenant, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1974
- Humility: Foundation for Marital Happiness, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1986
- Gratitude: Foundation for marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1980
- True Meaning of marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1972
- Marriage and incompatibility, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=2112
- Love is a garden, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=2116
- Three kinds of love, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=2095
“God himself is the author of marriage” (GS 48:1). The vocation of marriage is written in the very nature of man and woman as they came from the hand of the Creator. Marriage is not a purely human institution despite the many variations it may have undergone through the centuries in different cultures, social structures, and spiritual attitudes (CCC:1603)
FBI Homosexuality. Many believe the Freemasons are simply a centuries-old charitable fraternity. However, the Catholic Church has consistently condemned Freemasonry more than any other error in its history because it promotes indifferentism, naturalism, communism, and other dangerous philosophies.
Homosexuality, the Grave Evil Presented as Good, Part 1
Homosexuality, Question and Answer Part 2
Homosexuals and Freemasons inside the Church
“The Rite of Sodomy” Homosexuality in the Roman Catholic Church
Mic’d Up “Pink Money and the Homosexual Mafia”
Michael Voris gives a series of short talks, answering questions coming in response to his talk on homosexuality in Nigeria.
In this talk from Nigeria, Michael Voris speaks about the grave evil presented as good – homosexuality. “Homosexuality refers to relations between men or between women who experience an exclusive or predominant sexual attraction toward persons of the same sex. It has taken great variety of forms through the centuries and in different cultures. Its psychological genesis remains largely unexplained. Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity (cf. Gen 19:1-29; Rom 1:24-27; 1 Cor 6:10; 1 Tim 1:10), tradition has always declared that ‘homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered” (CDF, Persona humana 8). They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved” (CCC: 2357).
The Cost of Abortion & Contraception Deception
Michael Voris talks an in-depth discussion of the true, financial cost of abortion and its effects to the United States. “The inalienable rights of the person must be recognized and respected by civil society and the political authority. These human rights depend neither on single individuals nor on parents; nor do they represent a concession made by society and the state; they belong to human nature and are inherent in the person by virtue of the creative act from which the person took his origin. Among such fundamental rights one should mention in this regard every human being’s right to life and physical integrity from the moment of conception until death” (CDF, Donum vitae III; CCC: 2273).
FBI Contraception Deception.
Modern man has divorced sex from procreation through his embrace of contraception. This Contraception Deception within the CatholicChurch has come about by a near total betrayal of the faithful by their shepherds and leaders.
Contraception & the New Dark Age, Part 1 by Dr. Martin Brenner
Where we are and how we got here. Join Dr. Martin Brenner for this first of a four-part series on the moral evils of contraception.
Contraception and Salvation, Part 2 by Dr. Martin Brenner
Join Dr. Martin Brenner for the second of a four-part series on the moral evils of contraception.
Contraception and Sanctification. Part 3 by Dr. Martin Brenner
Prayer and the Liturgy. Dr. Martin Brenner discusses how contraception is a detriment to our spiritual lives and marital relationships. The infallibility of the Church’s teaching on this matter is also discussed.
Contraception and Sexual Ethics. Part 4 by Dr. Martin Brenner
The Proper Practice. Dr. Martin Brenner describes the importance of spreading the message about the sexual ethic and goes into detail about the alternatives to contraception and their practices.
CIA: The Rockefeller Foundation
We are used to thinking of the Rockefellers as simply a byword for wealth, power and financial success. Perhaps we might think of them as determined businessmen or see them as great philanthropists. But the truth is far different; the Rockefeller Foundation is actively undermining the Catholic Church, and in the process, attempting to erase man’s natural orientation to the eternal.
Global Warming Unmasked
Are the environmental movements and groups simply devoted to laudable, correct stewardship of God’s creation, or do they have a more sinister, hidden agenda? Is “global warming” being used as an excuse for something far darker? Is the final goal of the liberal elites behind the push of junk science population control, eugenics and Gaia worship?
Mic’d Up “Is Contraception Killing the Church?”
This week on Mic’d Up we’ll be tackling the terrible scourge of Contraception on the Church. Michael Hichborn and Rey Flores from American Life League will join us to expose Catholic Relief Services complicity with Organizations who support contraception and to Discuss The Pill Kills Day of Action 2014. Also joining us will be Lynn Mills who will be discussing the continued prayer rally at Providence Park Hospital in the Archdiocese of Detroit because of their complicity in abortion, contraception and sterilization. Following that same thread we’ll break down the announcement from Detroit Archbishop Allen Vigneron concerning the crisis of parish closings facing Detroit. Also dropping by will be author James Kalb, to discuss the plague of pluralism on the Church’s Hierarchy.