Quality Family Moment

Quality Family Moments 

Published on Dec 27, 2015

LYRICS ON SCREEN ADDED BY JACK LIM

“You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them.” – Archbishop Desmond Tutu

Families today are pulled in so many directions, it’s near impossible to find an open night on the communal calendar to stay home and spend time together. Even when parents make a concerted effort to limit extracurricular activities, things eventually reach critical mass, with dad running back and forth between soccer fields while mom juggles music lessons and grocery shopping.

Even though many studies point to the importance of quality time together for parents and children, most American families continue to hurtle forward at breakneck speed with no opportunities even to think about slowing down. So how can families build healthier, happier home lives? Well, for starters, we need to develop some new habits: say “no” to things that just aren’t important and “yes” to that game of Monopoly with the kids.

That may be easier said than done, but if we’re serious about reclaiming our family as Priority #1, a certain amount of family time must be non-negotiable – like a doctor’s appointment or board meeting we wouldn’t think of missing – only more so.

“I have a tendency to be a ‘yes’ person. I take on more and more tasks, because of the challenge and the opportunity they provide, without stopping to look at what will give to make room for the new duties. I did this last year to the point where I ultimately had to call a halt for a week and take a ‘time inventory,’” says Lisa Hendey, founder of Catholicmom.com and author of “The Handbook for Catholic Moms: Nurturing Your Heart, Mind, Body, and Soul.”

Hendey went on to decument how she spent her time for one full week, jotting down even one minute increments. At the end of the week she was ‘shocked by the results,” realizing that her days were “packed to the gills” even during slow weeks.

“I’d let things go undone, I felt exhausted and overwhelmed, and my spiritual life had been largely neglected,” she writes in her book, recommending that busy parents everywhere take a similar time inventory. She also recommends getting the whole family involved. “When we involve our children in our own time-management and productivity efforts, we teach them tools that will last them a lifetime.”

If you have any doubt that families desperately need a time inventory, take a look at these sobering statistics from a report by Anita Gurian, Ph.D., of New York University Child Study Center:

  • Americans spend only 40 minutes a week playing with their children.
  • Working couples talk to one another an average of only 12 minutes a day.
  • In the past 20 years, structured sports time has doubled while family meal time has declined 33 percent and family vacations are down 28 percent.
  • Teens who are present at two or fewer family dinners per week are twice as likely to smoke daily and get drunk monthly compared to teens eating dinner with their families five times per week.

For blended families or single parents, the time crunch is multiplied many times over. With children spending weekends at alternating homes, or with no one else to divide up responsibilities, parents in blended or single-parent families can begin to feel as if they’re fighting a losing battle. The key is to find some sort of community support, either through extended family or close friends. Build a network that will provide not only the occasional back-up when you need to be in two places at once but also the emotional and spiritual support when stress starts to get the better of you. No one can raise a family alone. It turns out that it really does take a village.

“The moments I hold most dear are those that arise unbidden in the course of any day – small, evanescent, scarcely worth noticing except for the fact that I am being offered, just for a second, a glimpse into another’s soul.” – Katrina Kenison, Mitten Strings for God: Reflections for Mothers in a Hurry

Family Time: Not Just for Dinner

No matter how busy our home life may be. It’s ciritical that we find time to eat together at least a few nights every week. But what if it’s just not possible some weeks? Here’s an idea: What if we eat breakfast together on a day when dinner won’t work? What if we have cocoa and cookies on a night when we miss family dinner? What if we put aside the household chores on a Saturday to make a special meal? No one said it has to be gourmet. Let our new motto be: Eating PB&J as a family is better than eating filet mignon alone.

Family as Foundation

When it comes to reshaping our home lives to include more family time, there are lots of options. A few things, though, stand out as requirements. At the top of the list is family meal time. Once upon a time, family dinner was the gold standard. But with the increase in two-parent working families and the focus on sports, dance and other extracurricular activities, it has become near impossible for families to eat together every night. In addition to meal time, a strong family relies on a strong marriage, a relationship between husband and wife that is not only loving and loyal at its core but obviiously so to the children. Seeing mom and dad in a caring relationship helps children understand how to build their own loving relationships – within the existing family and eventually in their own adult lives and families.

“If we are not aware of the effects of time pressures on the family, we run the risk of living lives of continual acceleration, non-stop doing, and passing that on to our children. This is the trend in our world today,” write Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn in their book “Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting.” “Sometime, somehow, stopping and stillness need to be valued, cultivated, and brought into the home to restore balance and to nurture those aspects of being that are best touched through non-doing.”

“Non-doing.” There’s a concept that’s foreign to our culture today. Sometimes doing nothing with our children is the greatest gift we can give. Think about your home life for a moment. Do you stand at the kitchen counter with the phone to your ear or the computer at your fingertips, nodding at your children but not really listening? While technology has given us the ability to stay connected with friends and colleagues, it brings with it never ending virtual chatter that distracts us and keeps us from really hearing each other.

So making time for family not only means saying “no” to outside commitmenst but to those inside-the-home time-wasters that vie for our attention. We can start to turn things around by turning off computers, phones and TV during dinner. Or, if we’re really brave, we can make a habit of turning off technology from dinner time through the kids’ bed time so that no one has reason to stare at a screen rather than took at each other.

“The family meal is a special family way of celebrating the presence of God in our midst. It is an opportunity for prayer and play. It is a place where family life can reach a certain crescendo of intensity.” – David M. Thomas, A community of Love: Spirituality of Family Life

Strength in Numbers

In the “old days,” families could rely on grandparents and aunts and uncles to help strengthen their bonds of love. Today, with families spread out, we have to get creative. Everyone needs an extra hand now and then. If we have close friends hearby, we can build a network that will catch us when we feel like we’re about to collapse. Car-pooling to events, sharing potluck meals, dividing the work of a school or churh committee can free us up for more family time and create a small community with lifelong friendships.

Making Every Minute Count

So how do we go from overloaded and stressed to calm and balanced? We can’t expect to do it all at once. We can begin slowly, adding in things that build up while getting rid of things that tear down:

  • Set aside one night a week as “family night.” No one goes out, no one hides in their room, no one sits in front of a TV or computer alone.
  • Find simple ways to spend time together. Cook a meal together, go for a family walk or bike ride after dinner, play a board game, read a book aloud or get out musical instruments and have a sing-along. Or simply make a snack, sit around the table and have each person share at least one thing that happened that day.
  • Children love one-on-one time with a parent. We can make a regular “date” with each of our children. Take a son out to breakfast or a daughter out for a manicure. Go on a hike or visit the library. It doesn’t have to cost a lot, but the dividends will be huge.
  • Savor unexpected moments – car rides, waiting for a movie or sporting event to start, sitting in a doctor’s office. These seemingly wasted minutes can be a great time to talk with our children and get insight into what might be going on in their lives outside the home.
  • Volunteer together. There is nothing like serving others to bring a family together. Work in a soup kitchen, visit a nursing home, join a Habitat for Humanity team. The options are endless, and it’s a win-win situation. We get quality time together, and someone else gets a much-needed service or visit.

“Family life presents ordinary opportunities to nurture children’s faith, to introduce them to such building-block concepts as trust, respect, belief, service, love and reliance on a higher power.” – Tom McGrath, Raising Faith-Filled Kids: Ordinary Opportunities to Nurture Spirituality at Home

“A happy family is but an earlier heaven.” – John Bowring

(Source: Christopher News Note 536, The Christophers, 5 Hanover Square, New York, NY 10004; Tel. 1-888-298-4050; Email: [email protected].)

Hereunder are other articles for you to read or watch:

1. Getting to know you, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=284

2. Be Positive, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=288

3. Love and Marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=292

4. Endless Love – Marriage after all, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=294

5. Say it with love, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=298

6. Quality family moments, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=300

7. Secret of successful marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=302

8. The vocation of marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1968

9. Marriage as Covenant, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1974

10. Humility: Foundation for Marital Happiness, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1986

11. Gratitude: Foundation for marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1980

12. True Meaning of marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1972

13. Marriage and incompatibility, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=2112

14. Love is a garden, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=2116

15. Three kinds of love, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=2095

Here-under are some articles about marriage for you to read or watch: 

  1. Getting to know you, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=284
  2. Be Positive, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=288
  3. Love and Marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=292
  4. Endless Love – Marriage after all, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=294
  5. Say it with love, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=298
  6. Quality family moments, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=300
  7. Secret of successful marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=302
  8. The vocation of marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1968
  9. Marriage as Covenant, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1974
  10. Humility: Foundation for Marital Happiness, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1986
  11. Gratitude: Foundation for marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1980
  12. True Meaning of marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1972
  13. Marriage and incompatibility, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=2112
  14. Love is a garden, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=2116
  15. Three kinds of love, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=2095

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