Be Positive: Climb Every Mountain
Christina Aguilera – Climb Every Mountain
“The problem is, basically: how to remain whole in the midst of the distractions of life; how to remain balanced, no matter what centrifugal forces tend to pull one off center; how to remain strong, no matter what shocks crack the hub of the wheel” (Anne Morrow Lindbergh).
What blocks a positive attitude?
Self-pity, a sense of helplessness, tragic events in one’s life, lack of faith, feeling unloved, inability to let go of past negative happenings, judging people harshly and with anger, feeling trapped by circumstance.
How do you nurture a positive attitude?
Stay in control of your negative thoughts, be other-centered not self-centered, maintain and nourish a spiritual life, have a healthy sense of humor, believe in one’s own goodness, choose to be a life-long learner, foster love in your life, believe in your personal inner freedom.
This I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning (Lamentations 3:21-23).
No one even said life would be easy, certainly not Anne Morrow Lindbergh, woman who endured the death of her child at the hands of a kidnapper. And it’s certainly understandable that when many people talk about the difficulties, even the tragedies of their lives, they often ask “Why?” followed by “Why me?”
There’s no simple answer to the question of suffering. Yet, we still have to face the challenge of coping today – and tomorrow.
Father James Keller, founder of The Christophers, said this: “Rebellion against difficulties or obstacles that cannot legitimately be avoided only makes a bad situation worse. Ordinary common sense recommends that we ride the storm, not buck it.”
In other words, reject negativity and choose to be positive. For example, perhaps you’ve heard about actor Robert Downey, Jr. whose drug and alcohol addiction led to arrests and even prison time. Now here’s staying clean and sober and has been acclaimed for his comeback in several recent movies.
He believes that “people rise out of the ashes because, at some point, they are invested with a belief in the possibility of triumph over seemingly impossible odds.”
“The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same” (Carlos Castenada).
Move beyond the tough times
“I don’t think of all the misery but of the beauty that still remains” (Anne Frank).
Nothing is more uplifting than encountering people who maintain good will and a joyful spirit in spite of their problems.
Meet Dominican Sister Ave Clark. In her book, Lights in the Darkness: For Survivors and Healers of Sexual Abuse, she recounts her early experience with sexual abuse. She decided not to say in “the painful darkness of secrecy.” Instead, she found the courage to begin the Heart to Heart ministry to help those suffering from life’s traumas, whatever the source. Her message underscores the key to joy and a good life: Be positive!
Her attitude came to her aid again after a terrible accident. An unhitched Long Island Rail Road train rolled off its tracks and veered onto a main street, smashing into cars before stopping. Four people were seriously hurt, Sister Ave among them. Her injuries included two broken wrists and crushed ankle.
Yet, even in the hospital, she showed concern for others hurt in the accident. Meir Mahlab later said, “I’m a Jew, but she said, ‘A human being is a human being. You need the prayer right now.’ She, too, was in terrible pain, yet she prayed for me. She’s an angel.”
Sister Ave would probably say that, with the help of God and His people, she was getting through one of the “detours we inevitably encounter on the road of life.”
“In the depth of winter I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer” (Albert Camus).
Avoid the negative trap
“Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results” (Willie Nelson).
People who endure great challenges seem to have an excuse to be pessimistic – but many are anything but that.
Rosemary Grieco cared for her beloved husband, who suffered and died from Parkinson’s disease, while raising their children on her own. Now she lives with her own chronic disability and pain. Yet, she rarely complains, crediting her faith for helping her carry “light emotional baggage.”
She often recalls a song she heard in her younger years. “The words were wise,” she says, “You’ve got to accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative, latch on to the affirmative…”
Accentuating the positive can be a challenge, yet it’s a choice everyone can make.
When the great opera singer Beverly Sills was asked about personal difficulties, she said, “I had extreme hights and extreme lows in my life. You have no choice but to go on. What’s the alternative? I always said I’m not a happy woman, but a cheerful one. A happy woman has everything going for her. A cheerful woman doesn’t have everything going for her, but manages to be cheerful in spite of it.”
Many people who cope with a severe chronic illness exhibit true grace despite their ongoing suffering. Joni Woelfel, from a Minnesota farm family, is one. She suffers from Meniere’s disease, a debilitating condition causing bouts of vertigo and hearing loss.
Woelfel wrote about this challenge in her book Tall in Spirit: Meditations for the Chronically Ill. She raises a thoughful question: “Could it be that the deeper the wounds, the higher we can soar?”
She says that acceptance of one’s suffering “means recognizing when it is time to let go of certain expectations and create new ones.”
What are our choices?
“The really positive people wake up each morning deciding to love the world, even as they are conscious of their own and other people’s suffering” (Mary Van Valkenburg).
Bill Genovese is one of those who, despite his troubles, chose a courageous and constructive life.
As a teen, he coped with the devastating, senseless murder of his older sister. In 1964, 28-year-old Kitty Genovese was sexually assaulted and repeatedly stabbed by a man in her Queens, New York, neighborhood. While she was being brutally attacked, neighbors, who heard her screams but either did not understand the gravity of the situation or did not want to get involved, did nothing.
Genovese, struggled with his anger. Two years later, he joined the Army and went to Vietnam. Both his legs were destroyed by an explosion and bad to be amputated. He was 19 years old.
Yet he determined “not to sit on the sidelines of life.” He is grateful for the blessings God gave him, like meeting and marrying his wife Dale, a nurse, having three children, a home, a job, his faith, and eventually grandchildren.
Bill Genovese’s determination has helped him “to understand good and evil and the ills of society.” He has earned the respect of all who know him.
“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us” (Alexander Graham Bell).
“He who laughs – lasts” (Norman Cousins).
One of the most practical ways to nourish a constructive attitude is with a sense of humor. President Abraham Lincoln noted that “If it were not for my little jokes, I could not bear the burdens of this office.”
Clearly, humor is part of God’s creation, so why don’t we give it more attention? St. Francis of Assisi advised, “Leave sadness to the devil. The devil has reason to be sad.” And St. Teresa of Avila prayed, “From somber, serious, sullen saints, save us, O Lord.”
Cal and Rose Samra started a ministry called The Fellowship of Merry Christians. Cal Samra says simply, “Our modest aim is to recapture the spirit of joy, humor, unity and healing power of the early Christians.”
And Dr. Joel Goodman, founder of the Humor project, believes that humor prevents what he calls a “hardening of the attitudes,” a rigidity that easily knocks you off balance, making it impossible for you to roll with the punches that life throws at you. He’s one of many people who not only choose to laugh, but get others to laugh, too.
Eartha Kitt was another. And abandoned child, born a white father she never knew, she lived with strangers in South Carolina, surviving by picking cotton and soybeans. Her transformation began when her singing talent was recognized and, bucking setbacks and prejudice, she became an international star.
She said, “I thank my stars every day of my life that I learned it’s not money that makes us happy, but rather, what kind of a life you live. Real richness comes not with dollars, but with sense.”
Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are Mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overswhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you. For I am the Lord your God. …You are precious in my sight, and honored, and I love you (Isaiah 43:1-3,4).
Here-under are some articles about marriage for you to read or watch:
- Getting to know you, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=284
- Be Positive, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=288
- Love and Marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=292
- Endless Love – Marriage after all, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=294
- Say it with love, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=298
- Quality family moments, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=300
- Secret of successful marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=302
- The vocation of marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1968
- Marriage as Covenant, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1974
- Humility: Foundation for Marital Happiness, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1986
- Gratitude: Foundation for marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1980
- True Meaning of marriage, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=1972
- Marriage and incompatibility, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=2112
- Love is a garden, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=2116
- Three kinds of love, please click this link: http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/?p=2095
“God himself is the author of marriage” (GS 48:1). The vocation of marriage is written in the very nature of man and woman as they came from the hand of the Creator. Marriage is not a purely human institution despite the many variations it may have undergone through the centuries in different cultures, social structures, and spiritual attitudes (CCC:1603)
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Michael Voris gives a series of short talks, answering questions coming in response to his talk on homosexuality in Nigeria.
In this talk from Nigeria, Michael Voris speaks about the grave evil presented as good – homosexuality. “Homosexuality refers to relations between men or between women who experience an exclusive or predominant sexual attraction toward persons of the same sex. It has taken great variety of forms through the centuries and in different cultures. Its psychological genesis remains largely unexplained. Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity (cf. Gen 19:1-29; Rom 1:24-27; 1 Cor 6:10; 1 Tim 1:10), tradition has always declared that ‘homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered” (CDF,